Unleashing the power to realise your potential is one thing, having the guts to get out there and create the life you want is another.
We are living in an exceedingly fast information age, whilst this is great, we can easily get caught up in it, so much so that we forget to enjoy living our lives. Last time I introduced my unique model for change that provides a compass and helps build your confidence to take the first step. It’s called the ‘8 Attitudes for Personal & Professional Change’. When applied together, these 8 Attitudes create the necessary mind-set for anyone to live their lives with purpose, passion and to achieve their full potential. They are the compass that assists you to take control of your life. We explored Attitude number one ‘I Live My Life on Purpose’ which helps you to identify what you really want out of life. Now it’s time to make it a reality.
Attitude Number Two: I Create What I Want
Firstly, I want to introduce you to the concept of the power of our thoughts. I believe that we alone determine whether our goals will be successful or not. The first thing I would like you to consider is that our reality or the world that we live in can be redefined. In fact, everything can be redefined. It is never too late to have a successful life. Our world and what is or isn’t possible in it can be redefined because everything that you see around you has been created by you. Everything! Two of my favourite sayings are ‘thoughts become things’ and ‘you can never be more than you believe is possible’ and here they are especially apt, as the first step for many people is the realisation that there is more going on with their thoughts than they realise!
Did you know that whatever you focus on expands in your nervous system? Your energy literally flows to where your attention goes. For example, if you focus on the one thing you don’t want in your life you bring it into your awareness and so it is not surprising that you often end up creating it! So always focus on what is it that you want to create in your life.
The good news is that you have the power to choose your thoughts and define your world. However, changing your thoughts is easier said than done as there are many deeply ingrained patterns of thinking that you will need to get to the root of and eventually replace with more positive and inspiring ones.
What can you do? The first step is one of self-awareness. Start to notice what that inner voice is telling you. Is it your supporter or saboteur? Listen to the chatter and beware of your saboteur as it can lead you into periods of anxiety and frustration. Explore why you are feeling negative emotions as these are the most powerful feedback mechanism we have. Challenge yourself by asking what am I ignoring in my life that I should be paying attention to? This is the first step to reclaiming your power and creating what you want in your work and life.
We can only process a small percentage of the information entering our nervous system through all our senses. It has been estimated that we are bombarded with 2million bits of data every second and we can only process a very small percentage of this. We filter out the rest. Our filters act like a pair of sun-glasses, filtering through only those things to which we decide unconsciously to pay attention. For example, if I believe that I am not very confident and not good enough to make a change in my life, I am likely to filter out the times I have been successful; I simply do not notice. We literally create our thoughts. This is great news because if we have created something we can also un-create it and start to think, feel and believe something different.
- Take a few moments to let your mind relax a little. Just as we can be aware of our feelings and movements in our body we can also step back from our thoughts and simply NOTICE them.
- For the next 24 HOURS pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Notice what you say to yourself.
- Are your thoughts positive and supportive or are they negative and sabotage your chances of success?
- This process requires effort not strain!
- Make a noteof the recurring patterns, both positive and negative. You may be surprised by the results
Secondly, start to take personal responsibility for what you want to create in your life and the choices you make. While studying successful people, who can create their lives the way that they want it, I noticed that they take responsibility for whatever happens in their lives as opposed to shifting the blame to others when things go badly. Once we put ourselves at ‘choice’ and take responsibility for everything that happens to us, things will stop simply ‘happening’ to us, and we will actively start creating the lives that we want and desire. More than anything else, taking responsibility will help us to step up our game in life. You will feel much more in control of your life as you are keeping hold of your own personal power in any situation.
Step 1: Take responsibility for everything that happens in your life. This means no more excuses!
Step 2: Whatever happens, good or bad, ask yourself, for what purpose did you create that situation and what is there for you to learn from it?
Step 3: Ask yourself how can you change your approach in future to create what you want in your life?
Step 4: Keep focusing on what you want and remember who is responsible for your success. It’s you.
When you start to take control of your life, amazing things begin to happen!
Until next time when I will be speaking about Attitude number three ‘I Know Who I Am’.
Lindsey Agness is a Master Trainer of NLP, author of four books including the best-selling ‘Change Your Life with NLP’. She works with companies and individuals to help them achieve personal and professional success.
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